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Sex With Psoriasis: Making It Red Hot

Sex with psoriasis is okay if you dress up

“I know you want to hide your flaky feet, but at least take the shoes off!”

Psoriasis and sex. It’s a touchy subject that most people wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot dildo. But it’s a subject that needs to be discussed.

According to a 2007 study in a journal called “Dermatology”, up to 66% of people with psoriasis say it has a negative impact on their body image and sex life.

It’s easy to understand why. Scraping your lover with crusty hands is one thing, but worrying about them choking on flakes as well as pubes, is another. It gets even worse during flare-ups, when most people just want to hide in a cave and be left alone.

But that’s not healthy. Sex is a great, and in most cases of moderate psoriasis, you have to remember that it looks worse than it feels. Here are a couple of things you can do to put the groove on when you’re feeling sexy!

Improving sex with psoriasis

  • Invest in a red light bulb. This is a great little tip I picked up some years back. It might make your room resemble a bordello or a love shack in Amsterdam’s red light district (just kidding), but it will do wonders at hiding psoriasis. What red light bulbs do is bathe the room in a dark, soft, red glow that masks your skin really well. Plus, they can be had on Amazon for under USD 5.
  • Use lubricant. You should always use lubricant, but especially so if you have genital psoriasis. It’s like WD40 for a rusty spanner. Whack it on and the experience will be a lot more comfortable whether you’re a guy or girl.
  • Dress up. You don’t have to be naked to have sex. If you have a bad patch on your back that’s flaring up, wear a shirt or a babydoll outfit. Tight corsets, latex S&M outfits or fishnets might aggravate your skin, so pick something looser. This one’s a bit harder for the guys, I admit.
  • Skincare-turned-foreplay. Next time you’re feeling frisky, ask your lover to smear some massage oil or ointment over you. It might not sound sexy at first, but it’s a great way of turning up the heat and moisturising at the same time. Just make sure to tell them which areas to steer clear of.
  • Improve your body image. Feeling good about your body, flakes and all, has a massive impact on your sexual life. If you feel fat and its getting you down, hit the gym or work out at home. Go for a haircut or a nice shave. Pick up a new suit. Cultivating a more positive body image takes time, but it’s important.
  • Don’t be afraid to see professionals. Severe cases of psoriasis might require special help. For example, I’ve heard of a guy who was married to a lady who was diagnosed with vaginal psoriasis. Their dry spell would last for 5 months at a time. After one of these, he spoke to a GP who advised him that he should consider having an affair or paying for sex! If it gets to this stage, you need to see a sex counsellor.

Do you have any tips for having sex with psoriasis? Please share them below and we’ll add them to the list!

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About the Author

I'm just an average 28 year old living with psoriasis. Over the last decade, I've tried everything, from real snake poison to rubbing banana peels over my body. I've finally found an approach that's working for me, and I'm sharing it with all the flakers out there. But Psoriasis Blob is not about one man, it's a growing community of great, red people.

3 Responses to Sex With Psoriasis: Making It Red Hot

  1. Kel says:

    I’m a psoriasis sufferer too right on genitals too, in creases and my hubby and I use sensilube often. If I have a flare he helps me put on my ointment wink wink so intimacy is possible, nice to know it’s not just me.

  2. SLS says:

    Good topic, nice article. I’m an older guy that has had penile psoriasis for a few years now. So, yep, I have a flaky-penis just like the one in your picture. I have enjoyed reading the articles & comments on this site – and plan to try some of the suggestions & recommendations. As for “Sex With Psoriasis”, may I suggest an article devoted specifically to “Sex With Genital Psoriasis”. Here are some things I’d like to know: (1) To what extent can wearing a condom reduce the abrasion & irritation experienced during intercourse? (2) I’m currently blessed w/having a very “wet” partner — so is a lubricant going to help “me” that much – what lubricant(s) should I try? (3) I’ve never been a “washer/rinser” after intercourse but I’m thinking that prompt cleaning/rinsing after intercourse might be valuable in minimizing any irritation/pain and also jump start the healing/recovery process — so what do you recommend for “treating” a flaky-penis immediately after intercourse – a water rinse & a dab of Vaseline? Also, what can you tell your partner when you abruptly disappear for cleaning immediately following intercourse – is there anyway to make the aftercare process (I.e. disappearing & treating BEFORE cuddling & sleeping) more palatable for your romantic partner? THANKS!!

  3. Javi says:

    Consult with a dermatologist I tried lots of remedies nothing help, I am currently taking humira and finally got some relief…

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